War on Terror The war on terror took a turn this week with the death of  Bin laden. Many people are talking about the success and others are talking about the possible retaliations. We live in very difficult and uncertain times. The only thing you have control of, is how you react to the news. We can’t control...

DECISION MAKING Our brains are amazing, able to make 100 trillion calculations per second.  Then why do we make such BAD Decisions at times?  It is because our brains are also wired to make decisions based on Feelings and feelings are often programed by our experiences and environment.  If you grew up in a household that...

FEARS Drive Us What are you Afraid of?  Fear is a very strong motivator but often it causes us to make bad decisions.  I’m not talking about being afraid of a charging Rhino, but our everyday Fears like; Fear of rejection, Fear of the unknown, Fear of consequences,  Fear of failure, or just plain Fear of life not...

FEAR or FREEDOM? I don’t think that I am afraid of much.  Well maybe I am afraid of rejection from people, I have a little Fear about getting cancer, or not having enough retirement money, I fear how my children will turn out, I guess I fear the way the world is going, I might fear loosing my job.   In fact if you...

Dancing in the Rain “Into each life some rain must fall.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. As I was talking to a young woman the other day I realized that some lives experience something  like Monsoons rather than just (some rain).  The point is that Everyone will have troubles and trials in this life.  Many people...

Stress & Fear Did you know that stress is actually a type of Fear?  When we have too much to do and are (Stressed) we are actually afraid that we won’t get everything done.  The Holidays causes a lot of stress because we are afraid we won’t have enough money, or will buy the wrong gift, or we won’t get...

Fearful or Afraid? Fear is designed to help us get to a safe place (quickly) when something like a lion jumps out at you.  Fear  actually short circuits the brain so you can make faster responses.  The problem is that you often will not make good decisions, just fast ones.  If a lion jumped out at me I would probably drop...

Real Pandemic I work with people everyday to help them with life issues.  What I see is STRESS.  That is the real pandemic in our society.  We live in fear that we won’t be able to pay our bills.  We fear that our jobs will disappear.  We are afraid that our marriages or families will fall apart, our kids will...