Assertiveness Being Assertive is very valuable in a relationship but it does NOT Mean being pushy or getting your own way. Assertiveness in communication  is the ability to tell your significant others what you would like or need.  Many times I talk to couples and they are afraid to say what they would like to have...

Improve Communications If you want to improve your communications you need to understand the Four basic ways people process information. People are either fast, or slow processors and either outward, or inward processors. Fast processors don’t need to think much about information before they have an opinion.  Slow processor...

5 LOVE LANGUAGES Book We have reviewed each of the 5 LOVE Languages; Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.  Remember the concept of the Love Tank.  When we express Love in a way our spouse likes we make a deposit into their Love bank.  If we do things that show them that we...

Love & Touch Love Language #5 is Physical Touch.  Studies have shown that babies need to be held in order to develop into healthy children and I believe the same is true for adults.  We need physical touch.  However some of us see Physical touch as the best way to express and receive Love. Those of you who know me...

LOVE & Service LOVE Language # 4.  I know it is hard to believe but some people feel loved when you do things for them.  Gary Chapman calls these, acts of service.  This is my wife’s Love Language so I had to learn this language even though it is not one of mine. She would come home from work and clean my...

LOVE & GIFTS Receiving gifts is a primary Love language for many people.  Since this is the time of giving that will be easy for some of us but Giving gifts when it is not an important occasion is what REALLY speaks love to those people where this is their Love language.  Remember just because you may not like gifts...

Quality Time RESPOND TO WIN A BOOK – Who doesn’t love to spend time with the one you love?  Some of us, myself included, need quality time with our spouse to feel really loved.  This is Chapman’s second love language.  First I want to stress the word QUALITY.  This is not the time you spend...

Words of Affirmation Chapman quotes Mark Twain as saying, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” If compliments are so powerful why don’t we give our loved ones more compliments?  Encourage one another should be our mantra for good relationships.  So often we allow ourselves to feel taken for...

5 LOVE Languages Book giveaway!  I will give away the  5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman.  When you comment on a post you are entered to win the book giveaway.  This book explains how we all use a different “language” to communicate our love.  When we communicate in our partners language it is like...

Do You Hear What I am Saying?? Communication isn’t as easy as it seems.  We all tend not to say what we want to say and say things that have hidden meanings.  The Tip for the day is try to Listen to the FEELINGS underneath the words that are said.  Is the person angry? Are they hurt?  Do they feel trapped?  As a husband I KNOW...