One secrete that I have learned is that Forgiveness has many layers.  We need to Forgive the actions done against us as well as how those hurts made us feel.  Forgiving the feelings that go along with the acts of hurt is the most important part. Our brains hang on to feelings much longer than the actual memory of the hurt.  If you are struggling with letting go of past hurts let me know how I can help.  <>< Mark

The Greeks can help us out.  They have 3 main words for love.  Relationship LOVE is best described by the combination of those three kinds of Love. First; Romantic or physical love is part of it. There is power in a simple touch.  Second there is the Love of friendship where you want to hang out together and share things with each other. The third is possible most important, is the Love of commitment.  This is unconditional love, a choice saying my love is not based on your actions. Put them all together and you have real LOVE. A marriage without any one of these is doomed to fail.  Make sure you include all three kinds of Love in your marriage.  <>< Mark

Secondly we all grieve differently.  Some of us cry, some of us tell stories and too many of us try to push the pain away and try not to grieve. I was at a funeral recently and saw people crying, while others were telling stories, hugging and and even laughing. It was all good.   One good way to grieve is to write a letter to our loved one or to God if you prefer, and state what you are going to miss the most. Write about the blessings you received and even your anger at the loss.  It is not necessarily easy but important to let the emotions out to stay healthy.  Let me know if I can help in any way. <>< Mark

WebMD states that excessive worring can cause problems in the body including; suppression of the immune system, digestive disorders, muscle tension, short-term memory loss, premature coronary artery disease, and heart attack.  Worry does not keep bad things from happening.  Worrying does not change the outcomes. Worrying is just harmful to you and others around you.  There is an old adage that you “get what you fear the most.”  We can actually change our behavior because of fear and worry so that we push people away.  If you are a chronic worrier then seek someone to help you learn how to overcome it.  If you catch yourself worrying stop and tell yourself that it is not productive and do something to relax and stay healthy.  <>< Mark

It is amazing what a good coach can help you accomplish just by asking good questions and providing observations. What do you want to be remembered for?  What brings you great pleasure?  What are your core values? Who are the people you really respect? These are just a few of the questions that help people begin to formulate a direction for their lives.  Coaches then provide accountability to help people stay on task to reach their goals.  CAREWorks of Kentucky provides professional coaches to many business and individuals in and around central Kentucky.  Let us know if we can help you achieve your goals.  <>< Mark

Let me offer some tips. 1) Keep the Big Picture in mind. Make sure your current decisions do not take away from your overall goal in life. 2) Every time you add something to your plate – YOU MUST TAKE SOMETHING OFF. You only have so much time in a day. I think about 24 hours. If you do something extra what did you Choose Not to do? Are you giving up eating, sleeping, work time, or family time? Choose wisely – See item number 1). Let me know if I can help in any way. <>< Mark

The village of San Lorenzo just got electricity about a year ago. For the first time they can have stoves and refrigerators lights and TVs that run on electricity.  But they can’t really afford those things and the electricity doesn’t run all day long.  But they are very glad that they have some electricity. If your attitude is one of Gratitude you will be much happier than if you focus on the petty little problems of life.  We have it GREAT compared to much of the world. <>< Mark

Most of these roadblocks in my life are between my ears. My thinking is sometimes screwed up.  I think that I am not capable of advancement so I don’t try.  Or maybe I think I need to be perfect in order to be accepted. Maybe it is my anger in life that is holding me back or me taking everything too personally.  There is GOOD NEWS,  Whatever it is that is holding you back doesn’t have to anymore.  This is where a CAREWorks coach or counselor can help.  Look at what might be holding you back and begin to change, so you can have a brighter future. As always, Let me know if I can help. <>< Mark

The only thing you have control of, is how you react to the news. We can’t control what terrorists will do, we can’t control what the government will do but we can control our reactions. If we let fear and worry begin to dominate our lives it will hinder you from achieving your objectives. Keep focused on your goals and don’t let things out of your control distract you. <>< Mark

Past Experiences shape us and teach us and prepare us for our purpose. Passion is something inside us that drives us in a direction.  What is your Passion? Personality is another part of finding our Purpose. What suits your personality? Finely look at Predisposition.  Predisposition is a great way to say what gifts and talents do you possess? Look at the 4 Ps in your life and you will have a good idea of where your Purpose is guiding you.  If you need a little Coaching through this process let me know.  <>< Mark